I’m hearing about this new term for sapphobia, from what I understand is an intersection of biphobia and misogyny. This is nice but when most of the people who identify as bisexual are cis-women and bisexuals are assumed to be cis-women, common biphobia is essentially the same as sapphobia.
Bisexual women do have privilege in the bisexual community moreso than any other group in the bisexual community. Are we going to acknowledge that too or just focus on the problems bisexual women face? If you’re not willing to check your privilege as bisexual women you are contributing to the bisexual erasure of everyone else and that isn’t cool.
How are Bi women privileged over Bi men
[[I’m a different mod than OP - hopefully this doesn’t confuse the discussion too much]]
I can see where my co-mod is coming from, but I wouldn’t by any means call it a privilege - there’s no power dynamic at play between the two.
I think what’s being referred to is more in terms of rigid masculine roles than it is anything else. There’s a stigma against male bisexuals in that the stigma against them existing tends to be more powerful than against women. Just by numbers alone, there are far more out bi women than there are out bi men, and it’s argued that this is because the stronger stigma against men being bisexual. Some reasons have pointed to the fact that female bisexuality is sanctioned by the male gaze, thus making it easier to exist in a patriarchial society (albeit in a perverted, fucked up, man’s play-toy sort of way) and, just from my own experiences with no figures or anything to back it up, queer women in media tend to be shown discovering their sexuality by having sex with a man, disliking it, and then having sex with a woman and loving it. Queer men, on the other hand, are typically seen as already being out and proud and gay and there’s never any idea that they have ever even though of touching a woman as well - in fact, the only male bisexual character I can remember right now was a rapist creep (wait, no, make that 2 - Chuck Bass from Gossip Girl is bisexual. I don’t remember who the other character is, unfortunately). Again, this gender split is based on the idea that bisexuality is a “middle point,” or a “transitioning point” or whatever bullshit, and is still not a female privilege.
Basically, final thoughts, is that there is a definite gender difference in the bisexual experience for men and the bisexual experience for women and the bisexual experience for other genders as well (even if we didn’t address them here). But I would disagree with my co-mod, whomever they are, in that it’s not a privilege to be oppressed differently - it’s just different.